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Calming Our Inner Critical Voices
Our inner-critic, although it now seems only to torment and batter us, originally came into being to protect our small and vulnerable selves. It came to prevent us from doing things and being ways that threatened to bring upon us more frightening and dangerous external criticism…criticism that might have led to the withdrawal of the love and support that were so essential for our survival. Though this "inner-policeperson" usually speaks to us in the harsh and judgmental tones of the larger culture, it does this STILL with the intention of pre-empting such criticism coming from the outside world. When the critic is badgering us, it is important to stop and ask inward: "Who’s scared?" and "Honey, what are you afraid of?" and "What can we do to make it safe for you to go ahead being all of you right now?" At the very same time, it is important to help detoxify and calm our inner policepersons by encouraging them to begin to question the messages from the larger culture that continually push us to do or go more, bigger, better, further, faster yesterday in order to feel worthwhile/valuable/loveable. And to question further, if we are women, the cultural messages that tell us-at the very same time-NOT to feel too full of ourselves, NOT to put ourselves first (ever), NOT to feel empowered, NOT to be so "emotional," NOT to be so concerned with process…and on and on. We can gently encourage our inner policepersons to consider if these are really such healthy values to accept and adhere to. Click below for support and inspiration for calming your inner critical voices. The "more like this" link on each of the pages below will bring you back to this page. You can then scroll down to this list so that you can keep on exploring. © For the Little Ones Inside - All Rights Reserved
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