© For the Little Ones Inside - All Rights Reserved
Robyn L. Posin Box 725w
Ojai, CA 93024 (805) 646-4518
www.forthelittleonesinside.com
Over these years, the whispers have slowly and gradually become a powerful and empowering part of the ordinary, daily, emotional vocabulary with which I talk to myself. They have transformed me: transformed my relationship with myself, with my life, with everyone in my life and with the whole sacred circle of life.
The messages and words, images and songs are no longer whispers. They have become a bone- and cell-deep thrumming that keeps me whole, alive and expanding: vitally aware of the never-ending rivers of magic and wonder in every "ordinary" moment of my life...in this body and in all the richness of my feelings, joyous and painful.
In their various and often changing forms, the treasures in this catalog have been shared as give-away with friends, clients, women at workshops, women gathering to explore aging, power and beauty and an ever-expanding network of their friends. In the years since 1991, they’ve asked to be sent forth into the growing circle of all of us who are now going so deeply to reclaim the knowing, the love, the power and the wisdom of the Sacred Feminine that’s been so long lost to us.
I send them forth as they came to me: with Love, Joy, Blessings and Delight! They come through my heart and belly to touch your heart and belly. None of these words will be a surprise to you. There’s nothing "new" here. Yet, you will be (as I am) remembering as you read and listen. And, in that the newness comes. It’s been so long since we’ve remembered that we can live in the cradle of loving ourselves just for being - and that we can flourish most richly from there!
Enjoy the remembering, live the remembering, share the remembering and, always – celebrate the wonder of you being alive, juicy and unfolding!
Blessings & Be Really Gentle With Yourself!
The Deck: $16.50
Set of 64 bookmark-size (2 1/8 x 5 1/2) cards.
Light gray recycled card stock. Bound with silver stretch tie.
An oracle, a meditation focus or a "book-in-pieces" to kindle and grow a compassionate, gentle, unconditionally loving, fiercely protective inner-Mother to help you carve safe healing space for your emerging self and for the wounded little ones inside.
The Cassette or CD: $10.00
60" Cassette or CD recording of the full set of cards. A meditative tape or CD with spaces of silence for reflection after each card. Short interludes of Thumb-piano improvisation after the reading of every fourth card.
4 1/4 x 11 Dark blue-purple Ink on gloss white stock.
5 x7 Card on light gray recycled card stock. Some handcolored accents. White recycled envelope. The "emergency resting kit" is a 2 x 2 ziplock bag containing a pair of foam ear plugs and filled with wildcrafted Ojai sage and dried petals from organically grown, pesticide-free roses.
TO Rest…To Take Time Out Of Time, To Stop All Talk And "Doing," To Be Still, Empty
Is A Sacred Act...As Essential As Breathing; As Significant, Meaningful, Honorable, Productive As Any Other Purposeful Action; As Critical, In This Moment, As Any Of The Other "More Important" Pulls That Make It Seem "There’s No Time To Rest"
That Requires Courage And Trust…In The Midst Of A Culture That Overwhelmingly Values More, Bigger, Further, Faster, Now; In The Midst Of An Alternative Culture That Vibrates With The Anguished Urgency Of Ending All The Poisonous Ways, Habits, And "isms" That Mortally Endanger Our Planet And All Its Beings; In The Midst Of A Personal History That Usually Gives Priority To Creative Acts With More Immediate, Tangible Outcome
Gentle, Dear Being, Rest Yourself Now!
$7.00 with envelope. $6.50 without.
8 1/2 x 11 Posters on recycled card stock. Blank back for message. White envelope.
Poster Card:
Tenderly, with so much love, I practice embracing myself in every single moment of my living
I practice being really gentle with myself, in as many ways and as often as I possibly can. Because no matter how it appears, I am a delicate, vulnerable creature who needs and deserves to be treated with gentleness.
I practice finding ways and places in which to make it safe to feel all my feelings, even though the world dismisses their value.
I practice reminding myself that rest is a sacred act: as meaningful, significant, productive and necessary as any other purposeful act. Because remembering this will help me to choose rest in a world that devalues fallow time or space.
I practice finding and telling myself only those stories that allow me to feel that it’s absolutely okay for me to be just as I am right now: a "work-in-progress" still continuing to grow, change and evolve. Because knowing this truth – that I can always feel okay about anywhere I am – is what gives me the courage and strength to take the risks that grow me.
I practice going only as fast as the slowest part of me feels safe to go. Because this is the only pace that is safe for me.
I practice listening to my body and my belly feelings. Because they always let me know what is so for me.
Tenderly, with so much love, I practice embracing myself in the difficult, trying edge-walking times of crisis
When I’m feeling anxious, lost, afraid, isolated or overwhelmed, I remember to remind myself that I am never alone on this journey: the Grandmothers are always with me, no matter how it may seem in the moment.
When something doesn’t seem to be happening how or when I think it ought to, I remember to remind myself that it’s likely that the Grandmothers have a vision and a timing for the process that’s larger than my own limited view. I remind myself, in such times of frustration, both to have my rant and to practice surrendering (with trust) into the larger field.
When I’m feeling pushed or pressed, I remember to remind myself that no matter how it may seem, there is NO RUSH! I remind myself that I can always allow myself to move only as fast as the slowest part of me feels safe to go. And, I remind myself that this is the only pace that’s safe for me.
No matter what anyone else advises and despite whatever knowledge and authority they have or I have given them, I remember never to do anything that doesn’t feel absolutely right in my belly. I remind myself that I am always and forever the world’s greatest authority on me – when I listen to my belly.
I am woman power
Birthing myself
Rising from the fecund ooze
Stretching, straining, reaching
Dripping mud
Flowing blood
Filling my ripe belly
With the breath of life
Radiating light
Bellowing, howling
Leaping, soaring
Roaring with glee
I am ME
I am SHE
I AM!
$13.50 for pack of any six
5 x 7 cards on recycled card stock. For color, see individual listing. Contrasting recycled envelopes. Unless otherwise shown, they are blank inside. Order in sets of six. Either all in one design or mix and match your own custom set.
Each of these Notecards is also available as an 8 1/2 x 11 Poster Card with or without a white envelope.
Each as a Poster Card with white envelope $7.00
Each as a Poster Card without an envelope $6.50
(Beige Card Stock)
Slip the traces of containment
Loose the fetters of constraint
Dissolve the boxes that constrict
Celebrate your radiance
Consecrate your confusion
Embrace your disowned
Shadow places
still evolving, sometimes lost, not always shining
"all-of-who-you-are-right-now" self…
Feeling vibrantly full-of-ourselves –miraculous, imperfect
works-in-progress that we are –is everyone’s birthright!
(Tan Card Stock)
We cannot outrun them,
Times of darkness always come.
Whoever teaches us
that it’s possible
To live always in the light, lies:
Where there is light, shadows fall.
Where there is day, night follows.
Uncertainty, upheaval, confusion,
Turmoil,decline, death, loss,
Fear, longing, pain:
These are not signs of failure.
They are signs of life unfolding.
What we run from
Grows its power over us.
What we risk to welcome,
What we risk to embrace.
What we risk to explore,
Empowers us
And brings us knowing.
(Rust Card Stock)
It Does Not Matter Whether How We Are In The Moment Is Born From Our Woundings Or Our Wholeness.
What Matters Is How Lovingly, Compassionately And Unconditionally We Can Embrace How We Are In The Moment; How Patiently Dedicated We Can Be To Providing Safety For Our Slowest, Most Fearful Parts.
(Gold Card Stock)
The loving acceptance you so deeply hunger for can never reach you until you've learned to give that gift to yourself.
You ARE entitled to love yourself just exactly as you are right now!
Practice being as gentle with yourself as you would be with anyone else you truly cared about.
Speak kindly and lovingly to yourself as much of the time as possible.
Listen in to your body and your belly feelings. Practice making room and safe space to feel ALL of your feelings.
When you feel sad, depressed or in grief, take time and space to fold inward to be with the aching and the tears until they're done. (They WILL be done, sometime!)
Listen to your angry, nasty, mean-spirited feelings - they tell you when something "not good for you" is going on!
When you feel scared or anxious, move more slowly, ask the frightened part what it would need in order to feel safe.
Go only as fast as the slowest part feels safe to go.
Remember that growth is a process, not an achievement. When you feel discouraged, take time to lovingly acknowledge how far you've already come...there is ALWAYS further yet to go!
Remember, too, that all life moves in cycles.. what has been must often come apart before what is to be can come together.
When you're tired, rest! ESPECIALLY when there's "no time to rest."
Remember that rest is a sacred act - as significant, meaningful, productive and honorable as any other purposeful act!
When it gets hard, remind yourself that it's okay to be different!
Applaud all the baby steps along the way of your journey. Acknowledge the wonder of your persistence in the difficult times. Marvel at the miracle of your courage and your trust-in-the-process. DELIGHT IN YOURSELF AT EVERY POSSIBLE OPPORTUNITY: YOU ARE A MAGNIFICENT WORK-IN-PROGRESS!
(Tan Card Stock)
If we were to come to each moment,
to each other, always
not-wanting/not feeling wanted-from
What magic could happen here
in this so very between place.
Opening to the biggest space
of what wants to come through us
Opening to the deepest yearning–
the unformed energy, the "only tending."
Choosing not to focus narrowly.
Choosing not to seek something particular.
Choosing not to "go looking" for anything.
Floating, drifting
in not-wanting/not feeling wanted-from,
Still,
available
ready to be moved
by Spirit and Soul.
(Tan Card Stock)
Welcoming our sorrow, anger, fear,
despair, jealousy and hate
as open-heartedly
as we do our joy, delight,
excitement, elation and love
allows these intense feelings
room to swell, crest,
reveal their teachings
and naturally fade away.
This always moves us forward.
label such emotions negative or bad-for-us,
the self-nurturer inside of us practices
embracing our challenging feelings
with ever greater tenderness
and compassion.
We honor the deepest truth:
It is in moving through
the shadow places that
a path to our most radiant,
reliable light is revealed.
(Cream Card Stock)
From the core,
Energy rising.
Vibrating.
Burgeoning forth.
Stretching us.
Cracking us open.
Unfurling wings,
We did not know we'd had.
Lifted on gusts of joy,
We are soaring
Beyond the furthest reaches
Of any self we have known!
(Rust Card Stock)
Gather armfuls of silence.
Fill baskets with stillness.
Weave a cocoon of gentle quiet,
A comforting bower of solitude
In which to rest
And be reborn.
(Cream Card Stock)
There are seasons when our unfolding seems to be moving in geologic time – at the pace with which lichen transform boulders back to crumbling soil. In these seasons, we become ever more passionate in our devotion to dancing our surrender into just-this-moment.
We take time to welcome, acknowledge, include and listen heartfully to each upset self. We wrap each in loving arms and murmur to her words of comfort and acceptance of her just as and where she is.
Feeling deeply heard and much beloved each – in her own turn and finger by finger – gradually unclenches her hold on the expectations, agendas, judgments, fears, catastrophizings or griefs she has brought with her into just-this-moment.
The clamor slowly quiets. All of our selves come together. We dance in the paradox: embracing is releasing, releasing is embracing
in just-this-moment.
(Tan Card Stock)
As wind is given voice
by the shape
Of each tree
Through which it blows,
So Spirit is given voice
by the shape
Of each of us
Through whom it flows.
Gently pruning away the dense tangle
Of inner branches,
The arborist opens a tree’s heart
To the nourishing flow of wind,
Unobstructed.
Of constraint, should and expectation,
We open our own heart
To the nourishing flow of Spirit,
Unobstructed.
The endless lesson repeats:
Letting go, letting flow.
(Tan Card Stock)
Our world, life swirling
Turbulent, out of control
At the edge of the abyss.
Emotional white water
Overwhelm:
Feeling helpless,
Powerless, anguished
Awash in fearful frustration,
Despair.
No Resistance possible.
Breathing deeply,
Yielding to the vortex:
Howling in rage, terror, grief.
Through the center
To our center.
In exhausted stillness
Knowing is reborn,
Direction revealed.
Inside Page Message Text:
In the turbulent times,
Try living in the thinnest slice of now
That you can define.
And, remember to practice
Being extravagantly gentle
With your precious self...
(Beige Card Stock)
Change moving quickly
Everything intense
Overflowing, too muchness.
Then, remembering:
Close eyes, breathe
Deeply, slowly
Again, and again
And again.
Feeling the slowing
In our body
Calling us lovingly
Into the very thinnest
Slice of now
Into just-this-moment
We have all we need
To balance
To cope
To hold ourselves
Safe.
Remembering:
Close eyes, breathe
Deeply, slowly
Again, and again
And again.
(Rust Card Stock)
Bask in her sunshine,
dance with her moon,
Revel in her mountains,
December and June.
Flow with her rivers,
ocean-tides out and in.
Delight in her spiders,
watching as they spin.
Open-hearted wander
in Her sacred breast,
Receive from the Mother,
Her loving so blessed.
Recalls to us always that we have the choice:
To slow down, to soften
To open the space
To welcome the Mother–
Magic, Rapture and Grace.
Inside Page Message Text:
May you in every moment and in every corner of your being,
feel nourished and sustained by the embrace
of the Great Mother's boundless loving.
(Dark Tan Card Stock)
What is at the edge
Is always the beginning
Of new directions.
There is no "right" way…
Only the way that we choose.
There is no "right" time…
Only that which feels timely.
There are no "consequences"…
Only the ways things evolve.
Of merging and emerging in the "no-place"
Between words and images
Between silence and sound
Between what is dying away
And what is coming to be.
In this birthing place of the future
Remember to be gentle, kind and tender
With yourself.
5 1/2 x 4 1/4 cards on natural white recycled card stock. Matching recycled envelope. Blank inside. Actual cards have a splash of hand-done watercolor across the figures. Order in packs of six. Either all in one design or mix and match your own custom set.
Matted for framing: $12.50 each
Any of these designs can also be ordered in bright white acid free stock, without watercolor splashes, in a 5 x 7 black mat and ready for framing. Any matted design can be ordered with or without the text on it. Pronouns in the matted designs change from "she" to "I."
Allowing The Love Of The
Great Mother To Enfold Her…
She Remembers To More
Lovingly Mother And Cherish
Herself.
Cherishing All The
Parts Of Herself With
Tender, Gentle Kindness…
She Feeds That Which
Hungers Within Her.
Delighting In All The
Baby Steps Along The Way
Of Her Journey…
She Celebrates The
Wonder of Her Unfolding
Moving Only As
Fast As The Slowest Part
Of Her Feels Safe To Go…
She Honors And Embraces
Her Vulnerability.
Opening To The Wisdom
Of Her Body And Her
"Belly" Feelings…
She Celebrates Her
Deepest Inner–Knowing Place.
In The Sacred Act
Of Resting…
She Nourishes Her
Deepest Self.
5 x 6 3/4 Postcards on light gray recycled stock. Blank backs. Can be framed. Order the set of six different designs or mix and match your own custom set of six.
In The Very Center Of The Heart Of The Long Abandoned Child-Within Lies The Seed Source, The Birthing Place Of The Ancient One, The Mighty, The Protective Wise Woman Within Us All.
So It Is Only By Reclaiming And Lovingly Tending The Vulnerability Of That Undernourished Child
Reaching Toward The Heart Of The Child, We Open To The Return Of The Great Mother: The Primordial, Powerful Female Energy We So Need To Heal Ourselves And Our Planet!
Reach, Now!
Be Kind And Gentle
With All The Parts Of Yourself.
Move Only As Quickly
As The Slowest Part Of You
Feels Safe To Go.
Listen For And Embrace
The Deep Inner Truths Speaking
Through Your Fearful, Angry And
Mean-Spirited Feelings.
Remember That Loving Yourself Unconditionally Is A Revolutionary Act And That Acknowledging Your Vulnerability Is An Act Of Power.
Help Create a Safer, Saner,
More Loving World:
Hug And Speak Softly To Yourself
Whenever You Feel Sad Or Hurt.
Go More Slowly And
Be More Gentle With Yourself
Whenever You Feel Fearful
Or Anxious.
Whenever You Feel Angry Or Resentful.
Be Kind And Generous With Yourself
Whenever Your Best
Isn’t As Open-Hearted
Or Wonderful As You Wish It Would Be.
Celebrate And Applaud Yourself
Whenever You Treat Yourself As Lovingly
As You’d Treat Anyone Else You Truly Care About.
Where The Sun’s Light Illuminates
The Edge Of Darkness,
Rainbows Are Born.
Where The Loving Light
Of Our Own Compassion
Illuminates The Darkness Within,
Healing, Wholeness
And Peace Are Born.
True Selflessness and Compassion
Flow
Not So Much From Transcending
As From Abundantly Loving
The Self…
May You Give Yourself (And
The Rest Of The Beings
On The Planet)
The Gift Of Loving Yourself
More DearlyAnd Generously
In The Days Ahead.
In Soft Whisperings From The Heart
The Child Within Offers You Always
The Thread of Your Truth…
May You Cherish That Child,
Trust That Voice
And Weave That Thread Richly
Into The Fabric Of Your Days.
(Rust Card Stock.)
Not part of set-of-six
I am woman power
Birthing myself
Rising from the fecund ooze
Stretching, straining, reaching
Dripping mud
Flowing blood
Filling my ripe belly
With the breath of life
Radiating light
Bellowing, howling
Leaping, soaring
Roaring with glee
I am ME
I am SHE
I AM!
The Mommy is a 3/4 x 1 3/4 inch hand-shaped figure of baked "Sculpy," a clay-like polymer, in marbled gray, black and white. She tucks snugly between the base of your fingers and your palm. This pocket goddess is accompanied by a booklet version of the words below and by a small velour pouch.
Place her gently in the crook of your hand where your palm joins your fingers. Snuggle her head and belly into the places where your fingers touch each other. Curl your fingers softly around her.
I love you, dear one. I am always with you. No matter what, I will never stop loving you. No matter what, I will never leave you.
You are loveable just exactly as you are, in all your unfinished imperfectness.
Even though you may not feel it to be so right now, you are a growing radiant being doing the very best you can in this very moment.
It’s good to let yourself feel all your feelings, they will heal you.
It’s good to let yourself pay attention to what your feelings and your body are telling you...even and especially when they are contradicting your thoughts…your feelings and your body are always telling you your truth.
It’s good to let yourself go slowly.
It’s good to let yourself say, "no, this doesn’t feel right for me," …even when you can’t explain why.
It’s good to let yourself be really gentle with yourself.
It’s good to let yourself do what you need to do to take the very best care of yourself that you can…even when others may be disappointed with your choices.
It’s good to let yourself be kind and soft with yourself when you feel afraid…even when there "really " isn’t anything to be afraid of.
It’s good to let yourself cry when you feel sad or frustrated.
It’s good let yourself stomp and fuss when you feel angry or put-upon.
It’s good to let yourself stop and rest when you feel tired or confused.
It’s good to let yourself curl up under the covers when you feel afraid or overwhelmed.
It’s good to let yourself know and ask for what you want…even when you think you may not get it after all.
It’s good to let yourself be exactly how and where you are…even when you aren’t sure anyone else will like that!
It’s good to let yourself just be!
The femiary, is a 1 1/4 x 3/4 x 1/2 inch miniature hand-coiled basket made from baked "Sculpy," a clay-like polymer in marbled deep brown and bronze. The top of the basket flares to resemble an open vulva (see illustration below). Chips of rose quartz and black tourmaline are fixed inside. A rainbow of cotton embroidery threads pours out of it. The femiary is accompanied by a booklet version of the words below and by a small velour pouch. It celebrates the re-incorporation of the rich darkness deep within us.
We are, each and together, reweaving the web, the womb in which we are rebirthing ourselves into womansourcing empoweredness: unconditionally loving ourselves, honoring the wisdom of our bodies and all our feelings.
Threads of light and joy mix richly with those of the darkness deep within. Growing ever less afraid of the secret dark places, we call them gently into consciousness. Doing this, we discover knowings long hidden by learned fears of trusting the messages from our anger, rage, terror, despair and chaos.
As we weave, we remember the ancient ways. We bring unconditional, unqualified love and acceptance to all the aspects of our feeling, embodied selves. We speak softly, singing words of loving to our wounded hearts. We are especially gentle and inviting to the secret hates, resentments, fears and griefs. We know that these are coming from those places within us that most need our generosity, love and witnessing.
Reaching deeply into these woundings, we allow the raging, the roaring, the tears, the wailings to come forth, to flow. In being received with love, they begin at last to be released. Grandmother Rose Quartz helps us journey safely into the wounded depths in our hearts. She supports and nourishes us as we lovingly witness the long-hidden pain coming into consciousness. She reminds us to go slowly.
Grandmother Black Tourmaline helps us to feel and re-member the radiance in these darkest places. She nurtures our growing awareness and trust of the power in the process of reclaiming our own darkness. With love and generosity we embrace what we have so long denied, disowned and seen only outside ourselves.
As they weave together, these light and dark strands strengthen and deepen us. This softens and dissolves the harshness and judgment that have so long blocked us from our capacity to love ourselves, to give and receive love with others. No longer hiding, or hiding from our darkness, we honor it. It is a most radiant part of wholing ourselves on the journey home.
The Care Package includes a velour pouch, a booklet version of the words below, a 2 x 2 inch satin pillow – handpainted and filled with wildcrafted Ojai sage mixed with cedar and sweet grass, a 2 x 1 inch box of Guatemalan worry dolls and a 1 inch plush covered miniature teddy bear.
The "Momma Loves Me" Pillow: A handpainted satin pillow filled with Ojai Sage (for cleansing and protection) Cedar (for harmonizing mind, body and Spirit) & Sweet Grass (for blessing).
The Trouble Dolls: Six handmade Spirit Helpers in a handmade box, all from Guatemala.
Use: At bedtime, or in moments of stress or need, remove one helper at a time for each fear, worry, doubt, frustration, ache or sorrow. Share and release each to a helper. It is believed the helper will bring its energy and support to ease and help resolve that problem or pain. There are only six helpers because it is believed no one should have more than six problems in one day. Helpers do their work while you attend to the rest of your life and while you sleep.
"Littlest Bit:" The world’s smallest, most discreet Teddy Bear.
Use: May be held, placed in full view or secreted in pocket or purse. "Littlest Bit" will listen with love and allowing to anything and everything you feel, no matter how "unreasonable." Holding "Littlest Bit" will remind you to remember to keep listening to, trusting and protecting the littlest one inside of you – even when no one else around you thinks that makes any sense! "Littlest Bit" will be the little part of you so that your grown-up self can speak to her/him with gentleness and loving care.
Some More "Loving Care" Ideas:
Add: 1/2 cup sea salt to scented oil or mineral bath salts in bath water. Soak by candlelight. Add soft music or incense, if that feels right. Feel the warm waters surrounding you with love. Allow your attention to follow your breath instead of your thoughts.
Place: your arms lovingly around yourself. Allow your body to begin to rock while humming softly. Tell the hurting part of how much you want to love her/him. Tell that part that you are starting to learn how not to abandon her/him ever again. Remind yourself how hard it is to be where you are. Allow the hurting part to weep, wail, moan or complain while the rest of you listens with love.
Wrap: up in a comforter, cuddle a hot water bottle, turn the heating pad up to "Mother." Curl up inside and feel sorry for yourself for just as long as you want to. Tell yourself just how hard it’s being right now. Cuddle a teddy bear, doll, willing pet or pillow. Give yourself permission to "do" nothing at all for a good while!
Lie: belly down on the earth or on the floor if that’s as close as you can get. Stretch your arms out as if to hug or hold the earth beneath you. Ask "May the Grandmothers take pity on me in my suffering!" Allow yourself to open your heart, spirit and body to the loving support and presence of the Grandmothers’ energy. Allow yourself to voice the cries moans, wails and complaints that come up from your belly.
Take: a walk in the woods, at the beach, in a canyon, in a park. Let a tree or large rock call you. Lean on, lie on or hug the tree or rock. Feel the energy of the earth, the sky, the ages flowing to you from the rock or tree. Ask the tree or rock to hold your pain and suffering for you.
Drive: in the slow lane, windows rolled up, radio on if you choose. Yell, scream, curse, bellow as loudly as you can stand to. If no other words come, try "No!!" or "I hate this/it/you!" And, try curse words of the strongest sort.
Lie: on a mattress or bed. Kick or stomp your feet as hard as you can. Try it with your knees bent as well as with them straight. Fling your fists into the mattress as well. Also, try turning your head emphatically from side to side. Yell as loud as it feels safe to yell. Again, "No!" "I hate this/it/you!" "Stop it!" can work if nothing more specific comes to mind.
Clasp: your hands over your head. Kneel at the side of a bed. Hold your breath – first in, then out – while you pound the mattress vigorously with your clasped hands. Do this until you’re exhausted. Yell, too.
Tell: whomever it is the truth you need to speak to them. If it’s not yet safe to do that, write it all in an uncensored letter or tell it on tape. You can keep it, revise it or, send it just as is later – if and when it feels safe. Or, you can burn it in a fireplace or the sink. As it burns, know that the fire is transforming the energy and the smoke carries your prayers for release.